Sex advice: Where to blow your load in a threesome
November 12th, 2009(not safe for work version)
Dear Misty,
I have a question about threesomes. I may be lucky enough to be involved in one soon for the first time and I’m a little unsure about what to do when I’m ready to come. How do I choose which girl to come with? Will one girl get her feelings hurt if I come with the other girl? I assume you’ve been in a few threesomes here and there. How did you guys figure that part out?
Jocko
My first piece of advice, Jocko, is to stop worrying about it so much. If you get yourself too psyched up about this big event your nerves may get the best of you and deciding where to leave your load will be a moot point, if you catch my drift. With sexual situations it’s usually best to just go with the flow and let things happen naturally. But if it’ll help put some of your fears to rest, I’ll do my best to answer your question.
Part of what may determine which girl gets your creamy gift is your relationship to them. If you’re in a relationship with one of the girls then the two of you should have a talk before the event to go over any rules, fears, or guidelines about how things should go. Use this opportunity to ask if she has a preference for what happens when you’re ready to come. She may not care at all, in which case you can just do what comes naturally when the time is right. But if she has any feelings about it you should be sensitive to her wishes. Even if you fear the other girl might get her feelings hurt, you owe it to your partner to put her feelings first. Honestly, though, it’s hard to imagine the other woman would really care.
If you don’t have a relationship with either girl then I wouldn’t worry too much about which one you choose. However, if you notice during the threesome that one of the girls seems to be more into you than the other I’d suggest letting her be the lucky recipient of your load (figuratively speaking – you WILL be using condoms, I assume). There’s also a tactic that would prevent you from having to choose at all. When you feel you’re close to reaching climax, ask the girls to both suck your cock at the same time. Don’t surprise them, though, make sure they know what’s coming. Saying something like “you are both so sexy, I want to look at both of your beautiful faces while I come,” could really make the moment hot for all of you.
I hope these tips help. Maybe some of my readers have some other tips and experiences they can share in the comments field. Good luck!
November 14th, 2009 at 3:46 pm
I would have to agree with Misty, I think it would be incredibly hot to have both girls looking up at you giving you a blowjob while you cum. For me that is a huge fantasy and turn on as well.
November 15th, 2009 at 2:27 pm
Surely there’s no wrong answer to that question?
November 15th, 2009 at 2:28 pm
It’s usually not an issue, but girlfriends who are timid about the experience might get freaked out if he blows it elsewhere.
November 15th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
Hmm that is true. And what would your preference be?
November 15th, 2009 at 2:30 pm
excellent advice… but I’d add: don’t worry about it too much, since I assume there’ll be (at least) a “round two”…
November 15th, 2009 at 2:31 pm
You have a lot of faith in the average man’s stamina. In my experience, by the time the guy comes everyone is pretty spent.
November 15th, 2009 at 2:32 pm
Never was the case for me in that scenario… FAR too much incentive to keep going.
November 20th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
My female half isn’t terribly concerned about it. She’s seen me cum in another girls mouth and it really turned her on. So much so that it’s one of the things she likes to think about to help push her over the edge some times, or so she’s told me.
But if this is your first time, it all really depends on the relationships. Heck, I’d just ask them when things get hot and heavy, it might spark some great dirty talk.