The View From My Knees

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Masturbation is the cornerstone to a healthy sex life – and what is masturbation without a good fantasy? Fantasies let us experience anything, anywhere, and with anyone we choose. Some of us may fondle ourselves to the thought of a different celebrity hottie every night, while others may get off on imagining mind-blowing sex with that same neighbor down the street over and over. But what happens when you finally get a chance to fulfill your fantasy? In the depths of our imaginations, there are no awkward moments or messy accidents, and everyone is hung like a porn star. But the sad reality is that our real life experiences rarely live up to our fantasies. That’s not to say that real life sex can’t be every bit as hot as a fantasy. Usually, though, it’s just not.

I’ve had my fair share of disappointments after landing the boy or girl of my fantasies. I can’t tell you how many times that crush I’d been touching myself to for weeks turned out to be a total dud. As a matter of fact, I’d just about lost my faith in my fantasies altogether. But then, a few months ago, my Fantasy Man – that lucky fellow that is the subject of most of the fantasies here on this blog – helped restore some of that passion, and he proved that real life could be every bit as hot as a fantasy. What would have simply been a fun, quick little encounter got me hotter than a virgin on prom night for no other reason than the fact that I was doing it with a man who’d been an unwitting player in many a mind-blowing masturbation session. Read on as I share with you a letter to my Fantasy Man…

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Ever since that night, I haven’t been able to get your thick, beautiful cock out of my mind. I didn’t expect the night to turn out the way it did. To be honest, I’d never expected all of those dirty emails, phone calls, and instant messages to lead to anything in real life. I was thrilled to see you when I walked into the crowded bar, and I giggled with delight when you hugged me and whispered, “you look so fucking hot tonight,” into my ear.

I snuck hungry glances at you from across the bar throughout the night, but I wasn’t sure when I should come over to see you again. You were busy with work and always surrounded by people. I couldn’t possibly have said the things that were on my mind in front of others. Then, just as the evening was winding down, and when I was sure I’d never get a moment alone with you, you came over to me. I suddenly became shy and tongue-tied. I could only smile up at you and give monosyllabic responses to your polite small talk. Luckily, you soon took a more direct approach.

“I’m going outside,” you told me. “Do you want to come with me?”

How could I pass that up? A few minutes later, I met you outside, and as we walked to a dark, secluded parking lot where your car was parked, you thrilled me with the dirty secret that your cock was hard for me. I nearly swooned with delight when you invited me to feel it for myself, and I placed my hand on the bulge in your pants. Even as we made out, leaning up against your car, all I could think about was what lay beneath those blue jeans, throbbing for the touch of my soft hands on its shaft.

We climbed into your car for more privacy and I suddenly realized how turned on I was by the wetness that was soaking my panties. I was so eager to devour your cock that I only spent a moment kissing you before I went to work on your pants, hurriedly unfastening your belt and unzipping your fly. I gasped when I reached in and pulled out your cock. I marvelled at its thickness, and I couldn’t help imagining what it would feel like to have your thick member stretching my tight pussy as you pressed it inside of me.

I lowered my tongue to the head and began to devour you. I licked and sucked every inch of your cock. I slid my hand up, down, and around the shaft as it went in and out of my wet mouth. I moaned with delight as you told me how good it felt. It wasn’t long before you exploded into the back of my throat and I swallowed every last drop.

Just then, we noticed that the others were looking for you outside, so we quickly composed ourselves and crept out of the car. I fell back a little so no one would see us come out together. Back in the bar, I saw you one more time. It was exciting to know that, as we hugged goodbye, no one else knew our dirty little secret. On the drive home, I couldn’t stop thinking about our encounter. I was hungry for more, and my imagination ran wild with fantasies.

Maybe, if you ask me nicely, I’ll tell you one of those fantasies in graphic detail. But be careful. Once you hear it, you’ll most definitely want it to come true.

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I promise I’ll return to the debauchery of my sex life soon (Fantasy Man is eagerly awaiting my account of our encounter together and my latest fantasy about him), but first I wanted to quickly post a question for a friend of mine. He’s asked for my advice and I’d like your help in responding.

He writes:

Hey Miss Knees,
Could I trouble you for some advice?
[My girlfriend and I are ] both interested in a three-way with another man. We haven’t actually discussed it yet but it’s out there and I know that she wants to do it, I want to do it too. My ex-wife and I had a number of three-ways with two other women, both were people that we were very close with and trusted, but in this case, neither of us knows anyone we would be interested in to fill the spot, and honestly I think would prefer it be someone we don’t know and that doesn’t live in the same town, to help avoid the issues I ran into during my marriage (long story).
Anyway, my question is simple but I’m sure the answer is not.. So, once we’ve talked it over, and established that we do want to do it, discussed boundries and so-forth, what do you think would be the best way to go about finding the third? I know that there are sites like adult friend finder and camazon, and maybe even joining a swingers group, but what would be your advice on A) finding this person and B) screening them.

I’ve had my share of encounters with multiple partners but, surprisingly, I’m not sure I have a good answer for you. All of my sexual encounters, with single or multiple partners, are with people I consider my friends. Whether it’s someone I’ve known for years, a friend of a friend that I’ve hung out with a few times, or even someone from a social networking site that I’ve been chatting with for a little while, I have to feel a connection with them. If I won’t want to grab a few drinks with this person another time, then I don’t want to fuck them now. But I know that everyone has their preferences, and when it comes to couple play, there can be some additional things to take into account. Still, since my requirements are different, I don’t have any experience searching for that safe and distant stranger for a casual, one-time encounter.

With my bias toward establishing more of a relationship with potential partners, I would lean toward finding a third on the more community-oriented adult sites such as mycircles.com or smutvibes.com. I would even suggest the profile-based dating sites such as adultfriendfinder or IwantU.com over one-off ads posted on Craig’s List. Call me old-fashioned, but something just doesn’t feel right about picking a complete stranger out of the classified ads to be involved in an intimate encounter with me and my partner. I have no facts to back this up, but I just feel like you’ll be less likely to get some skeezy creep when you start your encounter on a community or dating profile site. You can browse through profiles and usually see pictures and read a little bit about the person. You can exchange messages through the security of the network without giving away your real email address. Even though you may not consider yourselves swingers, you may want to look into swinger resources in your area. Whether it’s a swingers web site or a swingers club near your town, you’re likely to hook up with plenty of single men who enjoy a non-traditional encounter and know how to handle some of the messy details (emotional, and otherwise). If anything, you’ll meet sexually open people and start to form a circle of friends where you may eventually meet the right man for the job through these new connections. If you’re concerned that even a friend of a friend is too close for comfort, specifically seek out someone that is already attached so that there is less chance of some kind of complicated triangle drama (thanks to “Batman” for this last suggestion).

If you’re determined to make sure that this is a one-time, completely no-strings-attached encounter with a distant stranger, then take the advice of sex columnist Dan Savage: hire a prostitute. I know it may sound like you’d be crossing a line you’d never intended to even approach, but be realistic about what you’re asking. Who better than a professional to give you the erotic adventure you desire with no chance of emotional attachment or feelings of being used as plaything (which, when you’re completely honest, is exactly what a third party is in situations like these)? Heck, the sex would probably be way better, too. And most escorts take much better care of their bodies and sexual health than your average horny stranger; their career depends on it.

As for the screening process, which is certainly very important for an encounter like this, I have little personal experience with this, either. My “screening process” is the friendship I form with the person prior to hopping between the sheets. But even if you don’t intend to make a lasting connection, I highly encourage plenty of emailing, instant messaging, or chatting prior to the encounter. And don’t just talk about the upcoming event. Even small talk about what you did over the weekend can help you gain some insight into a person and may trigger some warning bells if this person is not right for your needs. You can get to know each other a little without giving away any uncomfortably personal details. And the more you’ve chatted, the less awkward that meeting in person will be.

Now that you’ve heard my suggestions, I’ll bet some of you readers out there have even more you’d like to add. Maybe you disagree with something I’ve suggested, or have more experience with these kinds of casual encounters. Have you had any luck with a particular web site? How did you approach your potential third party, and what did you do to become more comfortable with the situation? I’m sure anything you guys can contribute would be helpful to my friend and his girlfriend, and I’m interested in hearing it, too.